What is Emotional Intelligence? and how can I develop it…
Have you ever wondered what the term Emotional Intelligence is? Or indeed thought about why it might be important? In a series of blogs over the next 15 weeks we are going to explore Emotional Intelligence, looks at what it is and what the practical details are for using Emotional Intelligence in every day life.
So what is it Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is all about how well you understand your own emotions and the emotions of others, and the ability to identify and manage them. Emotional Intelligence, also known as “Ei” or “EQ”, is now well established set of “Competencies” that contribute to performance, engagement and success.
Emotionally Intelligent people possess high levels of self-esteem and are comfortable in their own skin. They are genuine and authentic. Whilst they have the ability to adapt their behaviour, essentially they are always true to their real self. As a result they appear dynamic, enthusiastic and passionate. They listen to their intuition and communicate from their hearts as well as their heads. How can you engage people by logic alone? People with developed emotional intelligence traits have a compelling vision that others feel a connection with. This creates a magnetic force that draws people to follow them.
Emotional Intelligence is broken down in to five key areas Self Perception, Self Expression, Interpersonal, Decision Making and Stress Management. Within each of these areas there are three traits. Over the next 15 weeks we are going to discuss each of these traits in more detail with their own blog. Those traits of Emotional Intelligence are:
- Self Regard – having respect for self whilst understanding personal strengths and weaknesses. Feelings of inner strength and self-confidence are often related to Self Regard.
- Self-Actualisation – the want and need for personal improvement and the ability to pursue engaging, personally relevant, meaningful objectives that lead to a rich and enjoyable life.
- Emotional Self-Awareness – knowing and recognising the impact own emotions have on self and others. Being able to understand the cause of emotions and the effect they have on personal thoughts and actions.
- Emotional Expression – the ability to openly and constructively express personal feelings with verbally and non-verbally.
- Assertiveness – being able to communicate thoughts, feelings, beliefs or plans openly, being able to defend your actions and values in a constructive manner.
- Independence – self directed and free from the emotional dependency of others. Making decisions, planning and working through day to day life autonomously.
- Interpersonal Relationships – shows the skill of developing, and maintaining, strong beneficial relationships built on trust and compassion.
- Empathy – knowing, understanding and appreciating how others feel in various situations. Empathy is being able to articulate your understanding of others in a supportive, respectful way.
- Social Responsibility – your contribution to society, work or personal social groups. being responsible, having a social consciousness and sharing concern for the great community.
- Problem Solving – your ability to work through a problem and find solutions where emotions may be involved. This trait includes understanding how emotions impact decision making.
- Reality Testing – the ability to see things as they really are, remaining objective and recognising that emotions, or personal bias can cause one to be less objective.
- Impulse Control – the capacity to resist an impulse, drive or temptation to act. Avoiding rash decisions and behaviours that may result in regret.
- Flexibility – being dynamic with choice and flexing your emotions, thoughts and behaviours to ideas or situations that you wouldn’t normally.
- Stress Tolerance – the coping mechanism to deal with stressful or difficult situations and that the belief that one can manage and influence a better outcome, in the moment.
- Optimism – your positive attitude towards the future and your general outlook on life. Being resilient despite occasional setbacks.
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Listed above are 15 conceptual components of Emotional Intelligence that are measured subscales. You can develop Emotional intelligence and emotional skills over time. Emotional Intelligence changes throughout life, and can be improved through training and coaching programs.
Check back each week to take a deeper look at each of the subscales and explore ways in with each can be developed. You may want to sign up to our blog by email so you never miss out. or even come along to one of our Emotional Intelligence Masterclass workshops.